I am Everywoman. I must say I feel sorry for ‘poor’ Hrithik. He was ‘stalked by a crazed woman’ who ‘claims he had an affair’ with her while he was still married. She sent him ‘thousands of unsolicited emails’. He ‘never met her even once outside of their work’. He is ‘so worried for his kids’ that he finally broke his silence.
Yes. He had to break his silence and clarify.
Unlike Amitabh Bacchhan, Rajesh Khanna, Dharmendra, Sunny Deol, Sanjay Khan, Salman Khan or anyone else in the past had to ever clarify to any women in their lives in public or ever for that matter. Except maybe Dilip Kumar who could not manage to get away with the ‘accidental affair’ with Asma.
Because finally some woman decided not to keep quiet!! She brushed the man off as a ‘silly ex’ and when he retaliated with a swat she retaliated with a blast. She finally showed what it is like when the bully is stood up to. Whether the bully is a smug flag bearer of nepotism or a lame duck has- been star son who has benefited from that nepotism. It could have been Abhishek or Farhan or Salman or Ranbir or Adhyayan Suman or anyone of the long list of slightly failed star family sons with sad skills at relationships of their own who are now supporting Mr. H.
Willy- nilly (pun intended) Mr H will go down in history as the first Bollywood Hero to be called out and shamed so publicly by the woman he was not honest with. He may have played the superhero Krrish but she is surely his Kryptonite!
Men have never needed to shush the women till now because the patriarchy had done its job well. Women were shushing themselves. “What will people say? What will my parents say?? It must have been my fault. My reputation will be in shreds if I speak out!”
As a result of this conspiracy of silence, no man has been called out like this in the past.
Zeenat Aman was slapped and beaten up in a hotel lobby by Hrithik’s (now ex) father- in- law (in full sight of the public and so much that her eye has been permanently damaged). Dimple was repeatedly cheated on by Twinkle’s father and now Sunny Deol continues to be married to his wife but in a public relationship with Dimple herself. Aishwarya Rai was slapped around by Farhan’s father’s writer partner Salim Khan’s son Salman,“ but he never hit me on my face.”
Aww cho chweet !!
And these are the people who are standing up for old buddy H.
- Suzanne the ex-wife, whose father beat up the woman he had an affair with while married to her mother and whose cousin Fardeen was in jail for possession of cocainehttp://indiatoday.intoday.in/story/bollywood-drug-links-fardeen-khans-arrest-may-expose-tinsel-towns-links-with-drugs/1/233625.html
- Twinkle Khanna ( who went to boarding school with Best Friend and ‘nepotism flag bearer’ Karan Johar and whose husband Akshay has had a string of affairs in his past with Karishma Kapoor, Raveen Tandon, Pooja Batra and Shilpa Shetty)
- Aditya Pancholi who probably should be in jail for violence https://www.brecorder.com/2017/09/13/369046/kangana-ranaut-beaten-by-aditya-pancholi-in-public/
- and whose son Suraj Pancholi inspired this letter from Jiah Khan–
In her suicide note said “There was a time I saw my life with you, a future with you. But you shattered my dreams. I feel dead inside. I’ve never given so much of myself to someone or cared so much. You returned my love with cheating and lies. It didn’t matter how many gifts I gave you or how beautiful I looked for you. I was scared of getting pregnant but I gave myself completely the pain you have caused me everyday has destroyed every bit of me, destroyed my soul. I can’t eat or sleep or think or function. I am running away from everything.” http://indiatoday.intoday.in/story/jiah-khan-suicide-case-this-is-what-jiah-khans-letter-to-sooraj-pancholi-said-abortion-pregnancy-court-full-text/1/544424.html
- Adhyayan Suman who should also be detained somewhere mainly for being a smug and useless person. http://www.dnaindia.com/entertainment/report-from-black-magic-to-impure-blood-12-outrageous-claims-adhyayan-made-about-ex-kangana-2207731
Diana, the Princess of Wales, suffered in a loveless marriage, which is fine, many of us Everywoman do. But she was made out to be crazy, she pitched into bulimia and despite the various clarifications and no end to the conspiracy theories, today the reality is that she is dead from a suspicious car crash and the Man is married to his lover and mistress and living in the Palace.
Monica Lewsinsky was a 22 year old intern with stars in her eyes, working at the White House. Bill Clinton was 44 year old Man. He was the President of the USA for heaven’s sake! He was married and had a daughter who was Monica’s age. They had an affair and like the ‘I can’t believe it’s not butter’ they apparently ‘had- some- sex- that- was ‘not sex’. Considering she had it with a man who ‘smoked but did not inhale’, that was not much of a surprise. Eyeroll. But who did the shame and the dirt stick to? Bill Clinton now has a Clinton Foundation worth millions of dollars and goes on world tours giving lectures. What does Monica have?
“She admitted in the interview that she “came very close” to attempting suicide. “I felt like every layer of my skin and my identity were ripped off me in ’98 and ’99,” she said. “It’s a skinning of sorts. You feel incredibly raw and frightened.” https://www.today.com/news/monica-lewinsky-new-revealing-interview-shame-sticks-you-tar-t86876
Rupan Deol Bajaj was an IAS officer whose bottom was slapped in public by KPS Gill. She retaliated by slapping a lawsuit. Some of the things she was told when she did it—She was vindicated after a long drawn out case which took 17 years but not before being told a thousand times to shut the f**k up and not call out The Man. Who was a Hero and a good Son of Mother India and such https://feminisminindia.com/2017/05/31/kps-gill-sexual-harasser/
Sanskari Alok Nath had this wonderful culturally appropriate and sensitive thought to share some moths ago:
While Rishi Kapoor of the ‘Great Kapoor Khandan’ (as he likes to keep reminding everyone) had this to say :
Even Gulzar of the gulabi aakhen and pighalti zulfein has apparently beaten up Rakhee and prevented her from working in films.
I will save the details of the ‘mad woman in attic’ trope for another blogpost but one must talk here about Gaslighting. The term originates in the systematic psychological manipulation of a victim by the main character in the 1938 stage play Gas Light.
The checklist of diversion tactics used by highly manipulative and narcissistic sociopaths apparently includes:
Gaslighting, projection, nonsense conversations from hell, over generalizations, wilful misrepresentations, changing the subject and name calling. Everyone from Hrithik’s bizarre saving of 1000s of unsolicited emails to Adhyayan Suman’s accusations of witch craft using menstrual blood to the name calling by Shekhar Suman to the nonsense conversation from hell that was Hrithik’s weirdly shifty and rehearsed ‘interview ‘with the nation which wants to know (mainly when this is all going to end and we can carry on with gossiping about Aamir Khan and the Dangal girl)
Of course one could turn around and say that she is using the same tactics but just because she has shown some really bad judgement in her choice of boyfriends, that does not mean she is lying. I find it TOTALLY un- believable that the smart, sharp and badass woman who made the ‘Coz I have vagina re’ video is making up all this.
However, even if there is not an iota of truth in anything she has said, I am going to cheer her on for having not just opened but smashed the door of the Pandora’s box and no man, at least in Bollywood, will indulge in an affair or take a woman lightly by thinking he can shame her into silence.
So go for it Kangana ! Everywoman and her sisters are with you, and so is Gandhiji.