Con and Kaun. A well- defined love story. Of sorts.

It’s more than a bit contrived, and convoluted, I must confess. But as connoisseurs I hope you will consider this concoction in a convivial manner, give it due consideration and even share among your confederates and conglomerates.

Conference:  a formal meeting for discussion that typically takes place over a number of days and involves people with a shared interest, especially one held regularly by an association or organization.


They met over the ….Annual Conference dinner. It was a noisy, busy event. They were both teetotallers and non- smokers and took their dinner plates out into the veranda to eat in peace.


Conversation; the informal exchange of ideas by spoken words, discussion, talk, chat, tête-à-tête, heart-to-heart, dialogue.


They laughed, shared stories, discovered the liked the same book, movies and got seriously annoyed by stupid and lazy people but more so by lies. She worked in the Consulate, he was a consulting Art Historian.



Connection: a relationship in which a person, thing, or idea is linked or associated with something else, the action of linking one thing with another, the placing of parts of an electric circuit in contact so that a current may flow.


They felt it. Like meeting up with an old friend you didn’t know you had.




Contract: enter into a formal and legally binding agreement, pledge, promise, commit oneself, engage, make a deal, formally enter into (a marriage, a friendship or other relationship).


There was no promise made but they did exchange phone numbers.


Continue: persist in an activity or process, ongoing, continuous, steady, remain in existence or operation, go on, carry on with (something that one has begun), carry on traveling in the same direction.


They spoke to each other once again. A Whatsapp call. Just to catch up they said.


Conflicted: being in a state of emotional confusion.


Then they stayed silent for almost a week. Not sure if this was the right thing to do.


Convinced: cause (someone) to believe firmly in the truth of something.


In fact they were sure it was not the right thing to do. After all, they had both attended the conference along with their spouses who were speakers at the event.


Conspire: make secret plans jointly to commit an unlawful or harmful act. (of events or circumstances) seem to be working together to bring about a particular result, typically to someone’s detriment.


But fate conspired to bring them together once again. It was a year later but this next conference was in an even more beautiful location.




Confusion: uncertainty, doubt, a situation of panic, disorder, chaos, mayhem; turmoil, upheaval, muddle, the state of being bewildered or unclear in one’s mind about something.



She was confused. What if he was just flirting? What if this was an elaborate confidence trick just to have sex? What did she really feel for him?




Con: To swindle (a victim) by first winning his or her confidence; a confidence game or swindle, a lie, exaggeration.


What if he didn’t really mean anything of what he said?


Confabulation: fabricate imaginary experiences as compensation for loss of memory.


When the conference actually arrived and they arrived at the venue, they both wove some spectacular lies to escape the different spouse programmes and went to a charming little café for lunch.


Confident: the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust, trust, belief, faith, credence, conviction, the state of feeling certain about the truth of something



After the meal, they walked down the cobbled street, holding hands. And she felt confident that they shared something real.


Contradict: deny the truth of (a statement), especially by asserting the opposite, deny, rebut, dispute, challenge, counter, controvert


The stories they had to tell their partners got more complicated. Sometimes they changed who they were with and where they had gone.


Contrition: the state of feeling remorseful and penitent, repentance, sorrow, regret, pangs of conscience


She felt terrible about the lies.


Conjure: call upon (a spirit or ghost) to appear, by means of a magic ritual, make (something) appear unexpectedly or seemingly from nowhere as if by magic She wished they could go off to an island and live out a life in a parallel universe, without having to face difficult choices everyday.



Contended: happy and at ease, willing to accept something; satisfied


Not that she didn’t care for her spouse but maybe they had grown apart in small ways and with him she felt happier. Or maybe it was just a mid- life crisis? For both of them.


Conspicuous: standing out so as to be clearly visible, attracting notice or attention, easily seen, discernible, perceptible, detectable.


She wondered if her feelings were obvious?



Conceal: keep from sight; hide, screen, cover, mask, not visible, disguised, camouflaged, keep (something) secret; prevent from being known or noticed, keep under one’s hat




She tried to hide it and so did he.

Confidante: a woman to whom secrets are confided or with whom private matters and problems are discussed

/ˌkɒn fɪˈdænt, -ˈdɑnt, ˈkɒn fɪˌdænt, -ˌdɑnt/



But she finally had to tell her best friend.


Confess: admit or state that one has committed a crime or is at fault in some way, reveal, disclose, spill the beans, admit or acknowledge something reluctantly, typically because one feels slightly ashamed or embarrassed


Who was rather alarmed by this confession.


Conscience: an inner feeling or voice viewed as acting as a guide to the rightness or wrongness of one’s behavior.


What is wrong with you?? She asked her.


Contemplation: the action of looking thoughtfully at something for a long time, viewing, observation, thought, reflection, meditation, consideration, deliberation.


She spent much time thinking about her friend’s reaction and decided to end it all.


Confront: meet (someone) face to face with hostile or argumentative intent, challenge, come face to face with, meet, face up to and deal with (a problem or difficult situation), tackle, come to grips with.


When they met again, she told him so.

What was the point of all this? Where can this relationship lead to?





Consummate: make (a marriage or relationship) complete by having sexual intercourse, complete (a transaction or attempt); make perfect, conclude, finish, accomplish.



But things didn’t quite go the way she had planned.


Contraception the deliberate use of artificial methods or other techniques to prevent pregnancy as a consequence of sexual intercourse.



This being a modern tale, they had both used suitable protection. But she has a moment of panic where she imagined what she would do if it had failed.


Continuing was not an option of course. She had decided on a child free life even within her marriage.


Consequences. result or effect of an action or condition. repercussion, ramification, corollary, aftermath  

Tu Kaun Hai Tera Nam Hai Kya………


Conceive: 1. become pregnant with (a child). 2. form or devise (a plan or idea) in the mind. think up, think of, dream up, devise, formulate, design, originate, create, develop


As it happened, modern methods are quite effective and access to safe abortion takes away most of the old plot twists and rona dhona….
Concubine: (in polygamous societies) a woman who lives with a man but has lower status than his wife or wives. a mistress.  
An archaic and sexist word, but is that what she was really? She earned much more than him, so she was not a ‘kept woman’ in any sense but….is this what she had ever imagined she would do?



Confound: 1. cause surprise or confusion in (someone), especially by acting against their expectations, astonish, dumbfound, stagger, surprise, startle, throw, shake, bewilder, baffle, mystify, perplex, puzzle, catch off balance

2. mix up (something) with something else so that the individual elements become difficult to distinguish.



In the middle of all this, her spouse confessed that he wanted a break. Just a sabbatical he said. I am not sure who I am any more or who I want to be. It’s been a rough time at work too. Let’s see how we feel after a year.



Considerate: careful not to cause inconvenience or hurt to others, attentive, thoughtful, solicitous, mindful, helpful, cooperative, kind, unselfish, compassionate, sympathetic, caring.



He said there was no one else. But after a year apart, who knows? It could go either way for either of them.


Controversial: giving rise or likely to give rise to public disagreement. contentious, disputed, at issue, disputable, debatable, arguable, vexed


She could not even imagine what would happen on the family WhatsApp group when word of this got out…….

Continue. persist in an activity or process, ongoing, continuous, steady, , maintain, keep up, sustain, keep going, keep alive, preserve.



He said: Maybe we could pick up where we left off?






1. the power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events. power, authority, dominance, rule, the power to restrain something, especially one’s own emotions or actions


2. Statistics a group or individual used as a standard of comparison for checking the results of a survey or experiment.


She laughed and said: Yes….maybe, maybe not ?


She realized that we really have no way of knowing where our paths lead us.


See you after one year.


They parted on good terms, and in their hearts they knew, that this was more goodbye than au revoir.





Conclude.: to bring to an end, ;finish; terminate, settle or arrange finally.





But this was more like the end of one phase and the beginning of another…….

to be continued ?


3 thoughts on “Con and Kaun. A well- defined love story. Of sorts.

  1. What to great way to learn about feminist issues and English in one very interesting story!
    They should use this in schools perhaps!

  2. Pingback: The Year that was, on WordPress 2017 | that which i am

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